Tuesday, June 9, 2009

5 TIPS TO GET CENTERED

ARE YOU GOING IN TOO MANY DIRECTIONS?
5 TIPS TO GET CENTERED
by Mary Lyn Miller


I have wonderful, creative, innovative, interesting clients and students.

In my experience you do NOT lack ideas. In fact, the problem seems to be TOO many ideas and possibilities, all leading in somewhat different directions. Then, there’s the dilemma of WHICH idea to pursue – and if you choose one, doesn’t it leave all the other ones out? But, what if the other ones are great ideas too?

So, you ponder and hesitate and months later NONE of the ideas are implemented. Then, there’s that horrible moment when you discover SOMEONE ELSE has taken one of YOUR great ideas and done something very successful with it.

Yes, it HAS happened to me as well. So, if you have ever thought like this, you can see it does not work. Here’s some tips that may help you get up and running.

1) WRITE DOWN ALL OF YOUR IDEAS.

Keep them in a central place: a notebook, bulletin board, I-Phone or computer. This gets everything out of your head so you can clear a space for creativity, and, as you do this, you begin to realize that many of your ideas are just fragments of a larger vision, and that when you look at them over a period of time, a bigger vision may emerge. There are probably connections that are not possible to see while still floating around in your head. Some clients see consistent themes, and a timeline may become more obvious. I have become aware that I have the SAME idea over and over which takes up mental and emotional space, and when I write it down, it simply relieves me of enormous mental gymnastics.

2) IT DOESN’T MATTER WHAT YOU CHOOSE – JUST CHOOSE SOMETHING!

We wrestle with choosing the right idea, but here is a shocking fact: there is no one “right idea.” Every idea you have is connected to some inner yearning. Your ideas and dreams are not whole pieces, rather they are connected to each other like an invisible chain. As you begin to move on any part, the rest begin to follow. Like a chain, move one link, and the whole chain begins to move. Just do something and your chain will begin to move.

3) WORK ON ONE IDEA AT A TIME.

Again, when you gain momentum on one link of the chain, it affects the whole chain. But, the key is focus. Whether you’re writing an article (like me right now), or planning an event, or working with a client, or creating a new business plan, do it fully with no distractions. (Well, I am drinking carrot juice.) It’s about being present. Multi-tasking does NOT work (see below) and actually makes us feel perpetually empty and unfulfilled. We find that our Master Mind teams create the environment for our members to take the space and become present to what they REALLY need to focus on so they can do one thing at a time and see where it fits into their larger vision.

4) PRACTICE COMPLETION.

Our lives tend to be filled with starts and stops. We leave things hanging. Practicing completion means you do one thing until there is a natural stopping point. You can then savor the completion and job well done, and move on to the next task. When you multi-task, it usually requires different spheres of your brain, which is not only confusing, but makes you less effective at everything. When you do complete one task, there is no cause to celebrate because there are always others left undone. It’s never over, never completed, never enough. We take those feelings into every part of our lives.

5) GET ACCOUNTABLE.

After 20+ years of coaching, I know accountability is the key to success. It’s not big news. Andrew Carnegie, Henry Ford, Thomas Edison and few other major players were in the same Master Mind group decades ago. Carnegie believed it was a critical tool to extraordinary success. I do too.

That’s why I’ve created the Fired Up for Success™ Mastermind Network. You need to be reporting in regularly, and for other people to be tracking your progress. You need to be accountable for taking small, but consistent steps and to celebrate your completions. Not looking bad in front of others is a huge motivator for most of us. As solo entrepreneurs or home based businesses (or aspiring to be) your progress will escalate dramatically when you’re involved with a Master Mind team.


What if you had a variety of teams and times to choose from? What if you had extraordinarily successful and well trained facilitators: authors, coaches, and award winning trainers? What if it was all on the phone so you could be anywhere and participate? That’s what this is about.

If you’ll be in the L.A. area at the end of June, we’d love to have you joins us for our Fired Up for Success Mega Masterminding and Networking Workshop and Luncheon.

It will generate even more ideas –and get you focused! (Just in case YOU’RE going in too many directions!)